Keep the Intrigue in your Relationship

by Colleen P Moyne (Colmo) (follow)

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The most exciting thing about entering into a new relationship is learning about each other; our past, our hopes for the future, our likes, dislikes, our opinions and our observations on life.

How long it takes to really know someone depends on how readily we divulge information to each other. The thing we want to know first is - are we compatible? It’s not important that we think alike and agree with everything about each other but something has to click.

Once we get past that initial physical attraction and figure out that we get along, we respect each other’s opinion and have similar aspirations for the future, we become a couple.


Then comes the cementing of the relationship. We begin to talk about things like our religious and political beliefs, our fears or worries, our daily activities and our long-term goals.

But have you considered keeping some of that information back? Have you ever wanted to maintain a bit of mystery about yourself?

Why do we feel that we have to tell each other everything? Doesn't the idea of a gradual unfolding of ourselves sound much more intriguing? Imagine being with someone for five, ten or twenty years and still learning new and interesting things about each other.


My husband and I had known each other about eight years when I learned, during a conversation with his brothers, about some of the things he used to get up to as a child. It was fascinating to learn new things about him and the events that molded the man he became. I learned to appreciate him in a whole new light.

I’m not suggesting here that we keep important information or ‘dark secrets’ from each other, but previously un-shared stories from our past and insights into life can add new facets to our relationship and keep us wondering what we will learn next about the person we love.

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